When I started my coaching business a couple of years ago, I envisioned within months I would be jet-setting across the world, supporting my clients and just killing in it in life. I was so wrong about this. I started out with a vision to support powerhouse, badass women like me because I saw a need in the attorney world and I knew I could fill it. Well, fast forward a few months later, I lost my vision and my why because I was comparing myself to the other women in the program and thought I needed to be doing the same type of coaching as them. And the coaching I was receiving wasn’t clicking for me.
Why wasn’t it click?
Well, my coach at the time wasn’t speaking to me as an athlete. Her style of coaching is all about luxury, jet-setting, and living your fullest life. Because this was her focus and she never played sports in her life. What she was saying to me went in one ear and out the other. She was speaking a foreign language I wanted to understand, but my own wiring wasn’t able to make the connections. It wasn’t until I read “The School of Greatness” By Lewis Howes, it clicked for me, and I discovered what I had been missing all along. Utilizing my athlete mindset with my coaching style.
Lewis’ writing spoke to me as an athlete because he was one and still is one by my account. His book was the first book I took the time to complete the exercises at the end of all the chapters. To you, it might not be a big deal to me it was. Up to this point, I was consuming personal development books like a drug addict looking for their next hit. I was on a mission to find someone or something that would have it click for me. Lewis' book was the "click" I was searching for. I realized I had been denying and disowning a significant part of my identity and hard wiring--being an athlete.
Even after I hung up my basketball shoes for the last time, I never stop working out in some shape or form. My health is important to me, but I stopped calling myself an athlete because I was no longer competing on the court. Society tells us to be an athlete you have to train for competition and be a professional at it. Otherwise, you are just another person focused on their fitness.
Many athletes whether they stopped competing in high school, college, or are retiring from their professional sport go into a deep depression and downward cycle because they lost apart of who they are as an athlete. In a way yes, you and I are not athletes by the traditional sense, but I am here to call B.S. because of the training both mentally and physically you went through as an athlete developed you in the person you are today.
No one stops being an athlete. Once an athlete, always an athlete. For me, the only change is my court has become weight training, running, a yoga mat, even building my business. The same goes for you, the reader. I write this because the skills and mindset one develops as an athlete can’t be discarding as soon as one stops playing the game. It is embedded in your DNA.